Nov 7th, 2012 by Jennifer Lynn
A recent quibble between me and M.:
M.: (pops open cellophane package of a tiny satchel of peanuts)
me: (glancing at receipt, crumpled on car dash) Oh my jesus, did you just spend ten dollars on peanuts?
me: This receipt shows you just bought peanuts from that store.
M.: Mmmhmm, was hungry, and shit, these are good.
me: It says, ten dollars! On peanuts? That’s fucking ridiculous.
M.: It’s not my fault you don’t appreciate my gourmet nuts.
me: And this is why you are never allowed to go shopping alone again.
Is your significant other a spender or a saver?
I presume the majority of my readers are typically pretty money smart, but what about your significant others? How does your partner view consumerism, savings and finance, and how does it mesh with your values?
M. definitely likes to splurge and, although he will take care of all necessities first, he is more inclined to be a spender in our relationship. Not an over-spender, mind you; he doesn’t, for example, haphazardly rack up unnecessary debt. But if there are a few bucks in his pocket, chances are it will melt away quicker than ice cream squatting in hell. Alternatively I am a rabid saver that will only buy the bare minimum, and I experience frequent buyer’s remorse over everything.
Actually it’s quite nice sometimes because M. and I are very open about communicating our expectations and therefore tend to balance each other out, as opposed to clashing over these differing viewpoints. This is beneficial to putting our financial habits into perspective when we work as a team, instead of making our differences a frictional bone of contention: I tame his wanton spending tendencies, and, in return, he makes me less of a pinch-penny miser.
What about you—are you the spender or saver in your relationship and how do you and your partner manage financial discrepancies?